Day 19 – Q 2.Family is the first school for an individual. An individual learns from the conduct of the family members. In the long run, her values are shaped by the examples set by the family members. Can you recall some of the incidents, which you feel, have shaped your morality?
2. Family is the first school for an individual. An individual learns from the conduct of the family members. In the long run, her values are shaped by the examples set by the family members. Can you recall some of the incidents, which you feel, have shaped your morality?
परिवार एक व्यक्ति के लिए पहला स्कूल है। एक व्यक्ति परिवार के सदस्यों के आचरण से सीखता है। लंबे समय में, उसके मूल्यों को परिवार के सदस्यों द्वारा निर्धारित उदाहरणों द्वारा आकार दिया जाता है। क्या आप कुछ घटनाओं को याद कर सकते हैं, जिन्होंने आपकी नैतिकता को आकार दिया है?
We are not born knowing how to behave in society, we have to learn many of the behaviors from the environment around us growing up. For most of us, this learning starts with the family at home. Learning comes in many forms. Sometimes children learn by being told something directly. However, the most common way children learn is by observation of everyday life. A child’s learning and socialization are most influenced by their family since the family is the child’s primary social group.
An individual learns from the conduct of the family members.
An individual’s personality is formed by looking at the behavior of others. Since a kid spends most of her time with family members, her personality is influenced to a large extent by family members. Being ethical is nothing but a part of personality and thus, family plays a critical role in determining ethics in human action. To illustrate, suppose a father has taken a leave from his office giving reason of going to pilgrimage. Someone from the office calls on the landline to discuss something urgent regarding office work, the kid picks up the call, the father gestures to kid to lie that he has gone to another town, even though he is at home. Then kid thinks that it is alright to lie.
In the long run, her values are shaped by the examples set by the family members.
- Acceptance: welcoming others whose ideas and practices differ from your own
- Compassion: understanding the suffering of others or self and wanting to do something about it
- Cooperation: helping your family and friends, returning favors
- Courage: willingness to do difficult things
- Equality: believing everyone deserves equal rights and to be treated with respect
- Fairness: acting in a just way, sharing appropriately
- Generosity: willingness to give resources, help or time to others
- Gratitude: showing appreciation to others
- Honesty: being truthful and sincere
- Integrity: sticking to your moral and ethical principles and values
- Kindness: being considerate and treating others well
- Perseverance: persisting in a course of action, belief or purpose
- Politeness: using good manners, acting in socially acceptable ways
- Respect: showing consideration for the worth of someone or something
- Responsibility: being reliable in your obligations
- Tolerance: having a fair and objective attitude towards different opinions, beliefs or practices
- Trustworthy: reliably doing what is right even when it is difficult, being true to your word
Some of the incidents, which I feel, have shaped my morality
- The patience I learnt from my mother when I was kid: once we were going somewhere on the train and I was eating some snacks, when I finished with eating I threw plastic cover in the coach itself. Looking at this act my mother instead of yelling at me, with her kind gesture she took the cover and she put that cover into dustbin. Then my mother with smile explained me importance cleanliness.
- Love for other living beings: My mom love animals. She would feed cows, cats, dogs, birds and what not. Her love was even reflected in the animals who would always come to her without any fear. She encouraged me to also be friendly with the animals. I let go of any fear I had for them, and also started feeding them.
In the formation of individual’s morals no outside influence is greater than that of the family. Through punishment, reinforcement and both direct and indirect teaching, families instill morals in children, and help them to develop beliefs that reflect the values of their culture. Although families’ contributions to children’s moral development is broad, there are particular ways in which morals are most effectively conveyed and learned.